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Danell teNyenhuis Black


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I’ve divided my stories by topic and placed them in indexes for easy viewing. Thank you Paul Ryburn, M.Sc. for the idea!

My experience learning to practice EMDR therapy

EMDR therapy | Credit: Laurence Soulez | (under license)

My client watches the movement of my wand as I softly use the cadence comments, “just notice” and “that’s right.” After 15–20 passes of my wand, I ask her, “what’s coming up now?”

Prince Harry opens up about EMDR therapy | Credit: Good Morning America & Apple TV | Interview publicly available on YouTube

I wrote about my…

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The scene begins with a man walking down a quiet street in a nameless small town. Everything looks normal at first glance. Then the camera pans to the dust coating the windows of the cars. A broken store window is seen in the background. Something is off. Suddenly, zombies come out of the shadows, and the man runs.

I love a good zombie apocalypse movie or any apocalypse movie. Until Covid-19 hit last year, they all seemed far-fetched. Now we have firsthand experience with a pandemic, and an apocalypse appears possible.

What should an apocalypse kit include? Food and medication…

It’s important to know when it’s time to take a step back.

Image by Free-Photos from Pixabay

When it comes to buffets, I love all of the choices and like to sample a little bit of everything. I always eat more than I should but never as much as I have put on my plate. Most of the time, you could say I bit off more than I could chew.

I have a habit of being overly ambitious when taking on projects. In the last few years, I have had a few ideas for groups on Facebook that I never finished launching.

Village of Support

After losing my husband in 2016, I was amazed by the show of support I…

Their new Apple TV+ series shows the mental health struggles of celebrities and everyday people

Mental health photo | Credit: tumsasedgars | iStock (under license)

Oprah Winfrey and Prince Harry are the new dream team for mental health awareness. Their new docu-series, The Me You Can’t See, premiered in May and follows the stories of various individuals living with mental illness.

Oprah and Harry both talk about their struggles, and celebrities such as Lady Gaga and Glenn Close share theirs as well. The trailer below provides a brief overview of what to expect.

Normalizing mental illness

As a pre-licensed mental health professional, I am excited anytime I see something that normalizes mental illness. …

Measuring the wrong metric can have unintended consequences

Man pushing a boulder uphill | Credit: Nastco | iStockphoto (under license)

People who work in service industries take pride in providing good customer service. A compliment can make their day. A poorly designed service metric can make them want to find a new job.

Performance metrics are used by many companies, including those in service industries. Companies use these metrics to improve employee performance and guarantee minimum service levels.

As a former customer service supervisor at a large health insurance company, My company measured employees using performance metrics. The metrics were called Key Performance Measures (KPM) and were used on employee evaluations and company scorecards. Companies that purchased coverage for their…

Even though I didn’t get one

Dollar symbols | Credit: Andrii Sedykh | iStockphoto (under license)

I’ve seen a lot of stories written by the excited recipients of the $500 bonus. And I’ve read a few from people who are disappointed they didn’t get one. I’m excited that Medium is giving out bonuses, even though I didn’t get one.

When I first heard about the bonus, I knew not to expect one. I wrote a whopping four stories in April and made $12.24. I made $28.70 in January, my highest earning month on Medium.

Writing is my hobby, and it’s unlikely I will ever depend on it for income. …

And why privilege is so misunderstood

Portrait of arrogant woman | Credit: Deagreez | iStockphoto (under license)

Her words are the familiar refrain of someone who has lived a privileged life.

I recently read an article introducing a new conservative op-ed writer for our local newspaper. The article bothered me, and it still does several days later.

The article describes the author, a woman in her early forties who believes success is achieved solely through hard work. Her words are the familiar refrain of someone who has lived a privileged life. I could have written a similar article five years ago or any of the 25 years before that.

I’m not going to link the article because…

Why observing death anniversaries doesn’t need to be somber

Photo by Wil Stewart on Unsplash

April 20th marked five years since my husband Patrick left for his early morning bike ride and never returned home. I try to write something each year to talk about my changes in perspective. This year I am adding some random thoughts and memories.

When Patrick died, strangers reached out to me to tell me how he touched their lives. Some of them have continued to share stories. I’m happy that he had such a positive impact on people.

I took the day off, as I usually do. Patrick wouldn’t want us to be sad all day, so we try…

Technology | E-mail Management

Okay, I didn’t really do it myself, but this service is worth the small cost.

Too many emails | Credit: Irina Griskova | iStock (under license)

Email should not consume your life. Especially emails sent to your personal address. If your unread emails on your phone are in the hundreds or thousands, what’s the point of even using email?

When I worked for Aetna, email management was vital. If I went even a few days without paying attention to managing the volume of emails, it got out of control.

As a counselor, I don’t get many work-related emails, and I don’t need a special system to manage them. My personal email is an entirely different story!

How many email accounts does one person need?

When internet access became common, Patrick and I got our…

Danell teNyenhuis Black

Widow, Mother, Wife, Associate Professional Clinical Counselor. Recovering Republican trying to find my way.

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